Practical challenges
It might seem impossible to deal with the impact of knowing your loved one is kidnapped, but there are things you can do to help yourself.

The amount of media attention a kidnapping receives is different in each case. Some cases do not receive media coverage at all, while others do. It will depend on the nature of the kidnapping, who has been taken, the amount of publicity put out by the kidnappers and whether your family or employer decided to go to the media or not during the incident. The media can learn about kidnap incidents from a range of sources, including family members, your employer, government statements and locals who may have witnessed or gained information about the incident.
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You should always think carefully before engaging with the media.
In most cases, you will be advised not to publicise the kidnapping in the media. Potential pitfalls of publicity include:
If the story is already in the news, you might want to give a statement or the authorities may encourage you to do so (and they will often help you to write it). There are also some rare cases where media can play a useful role. If you are considering going to the media about the kidnapping incident, you should have a clear understanding of your objectives and should consider how you will manage reactions and media requests in the long term. Always bear in mind the potential pitfalls outlined above.
Where co-hostages are still in captivity, you should always inform and consult the people who are managing the negotiations or other resolution before approaching the media, as they have a full picture of communications and background information.
You may be approached by journalists. Reputable journalists and media professionals will explain what they are after and allow you to ask questions and come back to them in your own time. Others, who do not share your interests, might put unnecessary pressure on you or try to convince you to give them your story in exchange for exclusive information. Do not feel pressured to give your story to any journalists and vet the credibility of all approaches. If you are unsure about whether to give your story, keep a record of the journalistâs contact details so you can reach out to them when you are clear about your final decision.
Journalists will want a lot of information from you, ranging from family life and employment information to the incident and how you are all coping, as well as your opinion on how the incident is being managed by government and other organisations. Because of the global and open nature of the media, you must assume that the kidnappers will read published material. Try not to include anything that could upset them further or encourage them to kidnap someone again.
The following ideas might help you to reduce the stress on you and your family from media contact:
On the whole, most journalists are responsible people. But, they have a job to do and will be under pressure to get information.If you are unhappy with the behaviour of a journalist, you could tell them that you will report them to their employer. If this does not work, go ahead and report them by writing to their editor (newspapers) or news editor (television and radio).

Most people now have social media accounts on lots of different platforms, such as Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram. Our social media accounts contain personal information about us and our loved ones, where we live, what we spend our money on, how we use our spare time, what we do for a job, and our interests. They also connect us to friends, family, colleagues, people we went to school or university with, and people we might know less well like acquaintances we have met on training courses. Because the information on our social media accounts can be accessed by a wide network of people, it is important to think carefully about what is on your profiles.
Liaise with those who are managing the kidnapping response about handling your social media accounts during the incident. You can increase the privacy settings to limit the number of people who have access to your personal information, photos and comments.
Some families who have been through a kidnap have been victims of cyberbullying on social media. Bullies can be people they know or strangers, including âtrollsâ who proactively find vulnerable people to bully online. This can be very distressing. Cyberbullying should be referred to law enforcement.
In some cases, images or videos of your fellow hostages and the kidnapping group might appear online and on social media. Immediately report these videos to the authorities who are investigating the incident.
These videos can be upsetting for victims. It can sometimes be possible to have these removed if they breach the terms of service of the social media or search engine companies. Sometimes it will not be possible and this can be very distressing. You can complain directly to the companies concerned and ask them to take action to remove the images or videos.
Hostage International can support you with all these matters and with others through our free Family and Hostage Support Service. Contact Us to learn more.Â