Seeking support
Video looking at the importance of seeking support

Guidance around how to engage with journalists and media outlets can vary as to whether you are affected by a kidnapping or an arbitrary detention.
The amount of media attention a kidnapping or arbitrary detention receives is different for each case. Some cases do not generate media attention at all, while other campaigns generate a lot of attention.
In a kidnapping, it will depend on the nature of the kidnapping, who has been taken and the amount of publicity demanded by the kidnappers.
The media can learn about kidnap or arbitrary detention incidents from a range of sources, including family members, the hostageâs employer or co-workers or local media statements. Governments may also put out a factual statement around the incident.
Each hostage situation is unique and there is, therefore, no âstandardâ approach to the media. You should always think carefully before engaging with journalists.
In kidnap cases, you will likely be advised not to publicise the kidnapping in the media. However, in an arbitrary detention the situation can be more nuanced.
Many former hostages have shared with us that campaigns for them during captivity gave them a positive psychological boost.
Potential pitfalls of publicity may include:
Once you have publicised the case, you cannot undo this action. The media will be encouraged to continue contacting you for comment â even after a hostage’s release.
There are some cases where the media can play a useful role. You might want to give a statement if the news of the incident is publicised, or those managing the incident may encourage you to make a plea.
If you are considering going to the media about an incident, identify your objectives and consider how you will manage reactions and media requests in the long term.
In all cases, it is advisable to make decisions about the media in conjunction with the people who are managing negotiations and have a full picture of communications and background information.
Managing approaches from the media

You may be approached by journalists. Reputable journalists and media professionals will explain what they are after and allow you to ask questions and come back to them in your own time. Others, who do not share your interests, might put unnecessary pressure on you or try to convince you to give them your story in exchange for exclusive information. Do not feel pressured to give your story to any journalists. If you are unsure about whether to give your story, keep a record of the journalistâs contact details so you can reach out to them when you are clear about your final decision.
Journalists will want to get a lot of information from you, ranging from family life, employment, family history, the incident, how you are all coping and your opinion on how the operation is being managed by government and other organisations.
They will ask for a recent photograph of the hostage and family. Make sure that the photo is not âunhelpfulâ. Donât choose one that gives the impression the hostage is wealthy. Avoid photos that might be perceived as offensive to those holding your loved one â for example, photos that show the hostage drinking alcohol, dressing immodestly, or showing an allegiance to a particular religious faith or political cause. Avoid photos that imply military links.
Because of the global and open nature of the media, you must assume that those holding your loved one will read published material.
The following ideas might help you to reduce the stress on you and your family from media contact:
What to do if a journalist is acting inappropriately
On the whole, most journalists are responsible. But, they have a job to do and will be under pressure to get information.If you are unhappy with the behaviour of a journalist, you could tell them that you will report them to their employer. If this does not work, go ahead and report them by writing to their editor (newspapers) or news editor (television and radio).

Most people now have social media accounts on lots of different platforms, such as LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Social media accounts contain personal information about us and our loved ones, where we live, what we spend our money on, how we use our spare time, what we do for a job, and our interests. They also connect us to friends, family, colleagues, people we went to school or university with, as well as some random acquaintances. Because the information on our social media accounts can be accessed by a wide network of people, it is important to think carefully about what is on your profiles and that of the hostage and wider family.
Liaise with those who are handling the response about the steps to take with your social media accounts. Considerations include closing your social media accounts and increasing the privacy settings to limit the number of people who have access to your personal information, photos and comments.
Donât forget LinkedIn profiles, which might contain information that could be harmful to the hostage, such as military connections, affiliations with certain organisations or other information that might imply you or the hostage are wealthy or influential.
Due to the speed of social media, you might hear about new developments in the kidnap incident via that route rather than from your government contacts.
Social media platforms, like Facebook, have options to allow you to limit the people who can see your profile, view your photos and access information about you. Each platform has instructions on how to do this.
Some families have been victims of cyberbullying on social media. Bullies can be people they know or strangers, including âtrollsâ who proactively find vulnerable people to bully online. Cyberbullying is a hard issue to deal with and should be referred to law enforcement.
You might want to monitor social media and the internet for news about the hostage, the group holding them or the country where they have been taken. This is understandable. However, given the amount of information available, it can become overwhelming. It might be advisable to give yourself âtime outâ from the internet and social media each day and try to avoid this before you go to bed so you can rest properly.
Scrutinise sources of information in view of the rise of fake news and misinformation.
In some cases, stories, images or videos of your loved one might appear online and on social media.
Immediately report these videos to the authorities. Consider the access young people and children have to social media and ensure they are supported if they have accessed distressing videos relating to the kidnap. While you cannot control their access, try to make sure they do not watch these videos again.
It can sometimes be possible to have videos removed if they breach the terms of service of the social media or search engine companies. Sometimes it will not be possible and this can be very distressing. You can complain directly to the companies concerned and ask them to take action to remove the images or videos.
Children and young people have grown up using social media and often communicate with their friends that way. Therefore, it can be difficult to ask them to close their accounts entirely.
It can help to talk to them about why it is important for them to increase their privacy settings and think differently about what they post. You should discourage them from writing about the hostage situation on their social media accounts and help them to understand why this could be dangerous for the hostage or distressing for them should this be used in newspaper articles or media reports.
Hostage International has an in-house media expert and we are here to support you. Contact us to learn more.